The Only Real Reason To Live Life For

I wanted to speak about something more philosophical but I realised I am here to be authentic. And here’s a topic that’s authentic to me but also very important to understand. (None of what I wrote is scientifically verified. I am writing what I feel from my point of view.)

The real reason that we need to live for is our capacity to love unconditionally.

I am not referring to the romantic love we seek while searching for a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I am talking about the love that Mother Theresa showed, that Martin Luther King Jr. showed, that Abraham Lincoln showed, that Lord Jesus shows, that makes you inspired on a Saturday night when you decide to change your career because you realise that your entire life is of a sheep living life just to fit in and not living an authentic life.

I find the latest trendy goal setting self-help materials very funny because they want you to create artificial motivations based on money, health, wealth, love, happiness and other temporary things. I say “temporary” because they don’t matter in the long run. They are important but they don’t matter.

What matters is increasing your capacity to love unconditionally. What does this even mean? I am glad you asked. In my experience, I realised that something is love when you want to water it and grow it instead of plucking it like a flower. For example, parents love their children but not all parents love other people’s children like their own children. When they can love other people like they love their own children, I think that is unconditional love.

I know there will be disagreements in some people and it’s alright. Please comment it under this blog post and I will try to reply.

Now not all people are parents. So you must understand that what I mean by the above example is when you can love another being as if he were you, then that is unconditional love.

Empathy is a very important feeling here and it will help you love unconditionally. Self-love is also a very important quality because without it there is no love. Helping others, living your life purpose, being happy, cherishing the little things in life are very important for unconditional love. Also there are many qualities that go into helping you grow your capacity to love unconditionally. Therefore if you want to grow your capacity to love unconditionally, you need to study unconditional love and start growing it through applying what you studied.

Now let me tell you what I think are its benefits-

  1. True happiness
  2. Satisfaction
  3. Feeling like you are doing things that matter(the little things)
  4. True success
  5. Freedom from the mind’s self-created suffering
  6. Wisdom
  7. Connection to God
  8. And many more benefits.

This list is created by me because I feel that in my experience unconditional love has there benefits and more.

So what I want to communicate to you through this blog post is that instead of basing your goals in money or other temporary things, you could base your goals in your capacity to love unconditionally. For example it you think on a scale of 1 to 10 you are 2 at helping animals, then how can you make it a 4 in the next 6 months? Or if you are a 5 at helping people in your workplace, then what will it take to make it a 7?

If you don’t want to replace your money goals then you could at least add unconditional love to the top and money to the second position. Because unconditional love is what matters.

Thank you for reading this blog post. I am writing after a long time and I believe I need to apologise. So I apologise to you all who reads my blog and follows it. I have been busy and distracted for a while and I would love to be back to blogging regularly again. Thanks again for reading and please like and share this blog post. Take care!

The Purpose Of Life

What is the purpose of life? I ask myself this question from time to time when I am not getting lost in some rabbit hole of beliefs and bad habits.

But honestly this is the most important question a human being can ever ask.

What is the purpose of life? And in this blog post I will give you my version of the answer.

Before giving you the answer let me tell you where my version of the answer is coming from. Who am I ? And why my version is of any value?

I have always struggled. From childhood to adulthood, From being bullied to starting my business, from being depressed to being fully happy, I have always found myself gravitating towards this one question- what is going on? It has led me to struggle and introspect and doing stupid things.

This question -what is going on? …is the most important thing to ask. I believe that my life is meant to bring to this world my insights about this question. To help people figure out life.

When I was in class 11 in school, I felt very lonely. I was holding a grudge against my previous school friends and I did not feel like I belonged in my new school. And something inside me told me to avoid school and contract because if this is life, I don’t want it. So I started playing video games and got detained for a year.

Something inside me pulls me towards this one question -what is going on? What is the purpose of life? And I am mad enough to follow that voice every time. That’s why you should listen to my version of the answer.

So the answer is-Doing the right thing.

Doing the right thing is the purpose of life. Knowing what the right time is of less importance than doing what feels right at the core of your being.

Love is one thing that is a perfect example of doing the right thing. Knowing if it is right is impossible but it feels right.

And love, oneness, goodness, kindness, happiness, togetherness, honesty, life, etc. are the right thing.

Anything that opposes the right thing is not the purpose of life and one must stop doing them.

My whole life is about being mad enough to follow the heart. I have been searching for the heart all along. I want to hear my heart more clearly and do the right thing.

The purpose of life is to do the right thing.

If you liked this blog post, please hit like and follow my blog. And do the right thing.

Feelings Are Overrated

Have you ever felt that you are living life but there is something missing? It’s not like you are sad or depressed, it’s like something is missing. I feel somewhat like that.

I am Anirban from India and I want to do big things. I am crazy and I like to think. The reason for this blog post is to talk you about phases in life when things feel different even though everything is alright.

Feelings are said to be overrated and I agree. But they are important indicators of what we are doing wrong. And I am a big believer in self-reflection. And I think feelings can help us introspect more effectively.

But I also believe feelings must not come in decision making. I myself fail to live by this idea but I that if I had not listened to my feelings, my life would have been completely different for good. I mean I would not have been able to recognize myself in the mirror.

When I say that I mean feelings play a major role in maintaining a false sense of self. And although it is not true for all situations, I think it is true for more situations.

And that’s why I think the dicotomy between purpose and survival is very confusing. Purpose tends to be emotional and survival tends to be more logical. When I want to make a decision based on thinking through something, I make the mistake of not taking action fast. I mean I tend to ask myself “What’s the purpose behind that?” and then when I start taking action, I am forced by my habits to change my mind to the survival mindset.

I am not perfect and I am trying to figure things out. The easiest way out seems to be just take action. But it’s not easy. As a leader it is important to have fierce belief and a sense of direction but it is not easy to do that when you have collegen and people over your head instructing you to live life their way.

I mean it not easy but I must stay focused.

Right now something feels like it’s missing. Maybe it’s just the mind but I have to take responsibility of that. At the end of the day I am the one who created my life’s circumstances.

I think the thing I want to give to you in this post is that Responsibility is what we must take for everything. Even if it is negative emotions or confusion or other people’s actions, we must take responsibility.

I think you liked this post and if you did not know already, I am Anirban from India, I have an ecommerce business and I am living life for connection to self and others.

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Why Do People Give Up?

The answer to this question that why people give up will be found in this blog post. But before telling you the answer I want to show you an example so that you can understand the answer better.

I love reading books, especially books that have real life practical wisdom, in simple terms Non-fiction books. I have read a few books like The Sedona Method, Think And Grow Rich, The Richest Man In Babylon, The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem, Mastery, Radical Honesty and many other books. But for every book finished I have 10 more books that I started but did not finish.

The reason why I did not, or more honesty, could not finish was because I gave up. I gave up persisting. And that’s why I did not finish them. There were many “reasons” like negative emotions, stress, underestimation of the efforts, procrastination and a lack of self-awareness.

Most of the books that I bought are really good books and even bestselling books. But they are not something I could make myself complete in the past.

Although I am still figuring it out, I realized that self-awareness is very important for success. This is because the negative emotions can be released if you are self-aware enough.

Also persistence is what makes success possible. There’s a book that I am currently reading and I am at page 196. The book is called “Psychocybernetics”. That book is amazing. But I could not finish it 2 years ago and it was only this month that I started reading. It shows that even if we give up, life offers a second chance and we have a choice to persist or settle for less.

I am writing these blogs because it gives me happiness to document my journey to success of Rs.22500,00,00,000 ruppees in sales in the next 5 years. I don’t know if it’s possible. But it’s my potential and I must aim for my potential. I don’t have a plan. I don’t have the money. I don’t have connections. But I must do it. It’s my duty.

To sum up I think people give up because they are not self-aware enough to persist. I know it’s not simple. You may be thinking what is “self-aware enough to persist” but please bear with me. If you keep following this blog you will understand soon.

In case you are new to this blog, I am Anirban from India. I have an ecommerce business and I have big goals. I am in college and I have friends. I am just like you. But I am not willing to settle for what everyone else are satisfied with.

Thanks for stopping by and reading this blog post. I wish you have a great Christmas eve on 25th December. This year has been a very educational ride without so many adventures. Thanks again. Take care!

Habits : How To Start And Maintain A Habit?

This post is about habits. I think I have an insight into habits and I would like to share it with you.

I started meditation 3 years ago and I meditated daily for a year. And it totally fixed my videogame bad habit. And although I am not meditating on a regular basis today, I think that that habit of meditation made me more disciplined.

Right now I have the habit of reading for 2 hours daily. But this habit was made possible by me setting a commitment to read.

I also have the habit of following a routine everyday. And that is something that helps me feel secure and stable about my day.

Habits make our day easier. I mean even though reading everyday for a fixed amount of time is not easy but it is easy enough to do it everyday if I set a specific time and period for it.

So here’s what I face problems in habits. I think that it is tempting to think that I can read for 4-5 hours a day and then when I do it, I am unable to see consistent results.

Results like learning something new must be done consistently. I mean it is better to read 1 hour for 10 days than read 4 hours in one day and not read the rest of the 9 days.

So I would say start with a fixed period and condition. What I mean is- tell yourself that I will not do this until I do that. So if you want to meditate daily, do an agreement with yourself to not eat breakfast until you meditated for 20 minutes.

But if you missed it, then maybe you can do it later. But aim for that consistency.

Then just do it consistently using a routine. I recommend re-writing the routine again with specific actions.

So this is my insight on habits and how to start and maintain it. If you like this post, then hit the like button and subscribe to my blog. And as always stay awesome.