The Only Real Reason To Live Life For

I wanted to speak about something more philosophical but I realised I am here to be authentic. And here’s a topic that’s authentic to me but also very important to understand. (None of what I wrote is scientifically verified. I am writing what I feel from my point of view.)

The real reason that we need to live for is our capacity to love unconditionally.

I am not referring to the romantic love we seek while searching for a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I am talking about the love that Mother Theresa showed, that Martin Luther King Jr. showed, that Abraham Lincoln showed, that Lord Jesus shows, that makes you inspired on a Saturday night when you decide to change your career because you realise that your entire life is of a sheep living life just to fit in and not living an authentic life.

I find the latest trendy goal setting self-help materials very funny because they want you to create artificial motivations based on money, health, wealth, love, happiness and other temporary things. I say “temporary” because they don’t matter in the long run. They are important but they don’t matter.

What matters is increasing your capacity to love unconditionally. What does this even mean? I am glad you asked. In my experience, I realised that something is love when you want to water it and grow it instead of plucking it like a flower. For example, parents love their children but not all parents love other people’s children like their own children. When they can love other people like they love their own children, I think that is unconditional love.

I know there will be disagreements in some people and it’s alright. Please comment it under this blog post and I will try to reply.

Now not all people are parents. So you must understand that what I mean by the above example is when you can love another being as if he were you, then that is unconditional love.

Empathy is a very important feeling here and it will help you love unconditionally. Self-love is also a very important quality because without it there is no love. Helping others, living your life purpose, being happy, cherishing the little things in life are very important for unconditional love. Also there are many qualities that go into helping you grow your capacity to love unconditionally. Therefore if you want to grow your capacity to love unconditionally, you need to study unconditional love and start growing it through applying what you studied.

Now let me tell you what I think are its benefits-

  1. True happiness
  2. Satisfaction
  3. Feeling like you are doing things that matter(the little things)
  4. True success
  5. Freedom from the mind’s self-created suffering
  6. Wisdom
  7. Connection to God
  8. And many more benefits.

This list is created by me because I feel that in my experience unconditional love has there benefits and more.

So what I want to communicate to you through this blog post is that instead of basing your goals in money or other temporary things, you could base your goals in your capacity to love unconditionally. For example it you think on a scale of 1 to 10 you are 2 at helping animals, then how can you make it a 4 in the next 6 months? Or if you are a 5 at helping people in your workplace, then what will it take to make it a 7?

If you don’t want to replace your money goals then you could at least add unconditional love to the top and money to the second position. Because unconditional love is what matters.

Thank you for reading this blog post. I am writing after a long time and I believe I need to apologise. So I apologise to you all who reads my blog and follows it. I have been busy and distracted for a while and I would love to be back to blogging regularly again. Thanks again for reading and please like and share this blog post. Take care!

Karma Yoga: A Real 10X Guide

Karma Yoga is a way to liberation through living life as a householder. Karma means action and Yoga means union. But very few know how it works. It is easy to accept that Karma Yoga is a way to liberation. It is difficult to keep your mind focused on the real goal- Truth. So I want to share with you my ideas about Karma Yoga.

Most of us had a moment in life when we inquired about truth and the meaning of life. And our friends and family members told us that we know truth only through life’s experiences. Well, it is easy to say that but that is the most difficult thing to do among all other spiritual ways.

Karma Yoga aims at “do your duty and stay detached from the expectations of the fruits of our actions”. But are we doing it?

See most of us start with that goal in mind but soon forget about it. I will show you how you can be on your way to truth back again and have a solid foundation of doing Karma Yoga.

These are some things that you must follow to do Karma Yoga-

1. Truth is the goal- Remember that your life’s goal is the truth. You live for truth and you die for the truth. But you must have a desire and obsession for the truth greater than your desire for anything else. You must be able to say yes to losing everything to know the truth. Admit it.

2. Be clear about you “duty” and commit- In Karma Yoga, we see duty as the holy grail of decisions. So you must be very clear on what your duty or means of attaining truth is. For example, you run your business and you like to help people. Then your duty is to help people through your business to know the truth. And then you must commit to your duty.

3. 10X Everything*– Set 10X the goals required and act 10X the actions required. Do this with anything you want to get. This is because this frees you from the scarcity and survival mindset. It connects you to a higher purpose.

4. Be self-aware- Always see if you did anything wrong. Keep the ego away. Humility is the enemy of ego. Always try to be self-aware and notice your fault instead of point out anyone else’s faults.

5. Be of service- Serve humanity more than you serve God. Swami Vivekananda said, “Where can we go to find God if we cannot see him in our own hearts and in every living being.”

Although this is not simple to put in action, I try to do my best to do it. I have learnt a great deal about myself and my self-awareness has also increased a lot. If you follow the points I said then you will also be able to raise your awareness.

*A quick note: 10X means 10 times to goals and 10 times the actions and hard work. This will ensure that you aim for the stars and land on the moon. More on this on another blog post.

A few things keep in mind would be-

1. Do not let your ego control your decisions- Ego will put you off track and stop you from knowing the truth. Whenever you see anything egotistical about yourself, ground yourself in self-awareness.

2. Do not let illusions of self-awareness fool you- We cannot measure self-awareness. Our inner peace, integrity, compassion and humility indicates our self-awareness levels.

3. Do not neglect success- Success and money are important. In his book Karma Yoga, Swami Vivekananda said that you must make it your duty to provide for your family. Without that you are nothing. So you must make your duty clear and pursue success instead of thinking you can rest.

4. Do 10X your duty and make others happy- Do extra service, extra help, be extra energetic and live life to the fullest. Truth is not serious, it is very simple and loving.

So this is what I have to say about Karma Yoga.

Swami Vivekananda said,”He is an atheist who does not believe in himself. The old religions said that he was an atheist who did not believe in God. The new religion says that he is an atheist who does not believe in himself.”

So believe in yourself. This is also because the truth is in who you are. In spirituality, they ask “who am I?” So your authentic self is the answer.

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Beliefs: Degree and Scale

We all have polarized opinions that something or someone is good or evil. But most of the time those are not completely accurate. When we realize the truth then there is a lot of grey area. There are degrees of good/bad and different scales depending on the context of the matter.

It is not easy to always see the grey area. It is a sign of a mature mind who can understand the wisdom behind everyday phenomena. And if a person knows how to see the grey and still make good decisions in life, we may know him as a great leader in the future.

What is a grey area?

It is an understanding that people or things are not completely good or evil or both. They are as they are and their impact in our lives both comes with “good” and “bad” consequences. For example, if we try to know the truth about whether “people are bad”. It is sometimes true and sometimes not. There is no universal version of it for all people in all circumstances. Let’s reframe it. We begin with defining what “people” means here. Of course, it depends on the person saying the statement. To me, “people” may mean people at night clubs because I spend most of the time there with a job I hate. But to my friend Kabir, “people” may mean people at his office and his boss because he hates his job. So for everyone “people” has a different meaning. To me, people at night clubs may be bad and to Kabir people at his office are bad. So we cannot make it into a universal truth for all humans in the world.

Now the concept of degree and scale is like rows and columns in a table. Every value at different combinations of the two has a different value. It is like the Celsius degree of 37 degrees. 37 degrees in Celsius is not the same as 37 degrees in Fahrenheit. For example, a person with low emotional intelligence(EQ) has a problem with people at night clubs. Then the low EQ is the degree and the context of nigh clubs is the scale.

“Why are you trying to tell me this simple stuff in this complicated manner, Anirban?”, you may be thinking. This system will improve your understanding of your beliefs, decisions and life.

How do I use the grey area concept for challenging my false beliefs?

Your beliefs are something you hold as the truth. But we base most of them on misperception or partial perception. For example, you experienced bullying in school for being a certain way. That’s why you are holding a belief that people will bully you if you are that way and you believe that “people are bad”. But that is not the truth. What you can do is to use the grey area concept for solving this problem.

You do this by reframing and putting things in its proper context. The degree and scale model makes it easier to do that. All you have to do is-

Degree: the thinking of as if people will bully you.

Scale: the context of your limited perspective of the feeling of threat from people.

Then you can change your beliefs with appropriate actions. I will discuss that in another blog post.

How can I distinguish degree from the scale?

It is very simple to do so.

Degree- You can ask yourself “To what degree is the statement true?” and then the answer that you get is the degree.

Scale- You can ask yourself, “At what scale is the statement true?” and then the answer that you get is the scale.

This is a new system that I came up with. I hope you will find it helpful.

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Decisions Create Freedom

Decisions are one of the building blocks of success for us. It is the one thing that separates us from other species in the animal kingdom.

Some call it freewill but in essence it is the same thing. Decisions are actions that prove the existence our freewill.

The freedom to make decisions is what Gandhi and other freedom fighters of pre-independence India had made their goal. A life where we can truly be free to decide what we want, when we want it and how we want it.

Think about it. Why would you want freedom without the ability to decide? A life without decision making is no better than a slave’s life. Without freedom to choose a life you desire why would you even consider yourself free?

Today is Republic Day in India. I did not think about this article in advance but it just came to me. But on this day, we must clarify our freedom in life.

Decisions create freedom, true freedom. Without that, we still are not free. If you let other people make decisions for you, a phenomenon that we witness in civilized systems where everything is planned and the individual lives a life of a zombie, you will not be happy. This is clearly not what true freedom looks like.

True freedom means a freedom to decide. Although we have the freedom to choose our response to our external circumstances as said by Viktor E. Franklin in Man’s Search for Meaning, we don’t practice this freedom to its fullest. Without using the freedom that we have, there is no use of it.

True freedom starts with decisions. And also from getting out of the victim mindset that we have. It starts with taking 100% full responsibility for our lives.

Imagine if you can exercise your full decision-making capacity to create a life where you are doing what you love to do and what is meaningful to you. It all starts with a decision.

So we must live life in a way that will help us truly be free not only from other people’s decisions but also from our own unwillingness to decide.

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5 Great People Who Showed Us How To Live

5 Great People Who Showed Us How To Live

As I listen to “Nadaaniyaan” from The Sky Is Pink, I feel nostalgic about the great people who are not living with us anymore who had shown us how to live life. Death is a reminder of our impermanence and we need to use this to move towards the Truth.

In this article, I will write about the great people who are no more with us and how they showed us how to truly live life. These are the topmost influential people whose legacy still has an impact on us-

  1. Aisha Chaudhary – Aisha Chaudhary (27 March 1996 – 24 January 2015) was a young Indian author and motivational speaker. She is the author of the book My Little Epiphanies, published one day before her death.
  2. Christina Grimmie – Christina Victoria Grimmie (March 12, 1994 – June 10, 2016) was an American YouTuber, singer, songwriter, and actress. In 2009, she began posting covers of popular songs onto YouTube. After releasing her debut EP, Find Me (2011), she reached one million subscribers on her YouTube channel. After her channel reached two million subscribers, she released her debut studio album, With Love (2013).
  3. Chester Bennington – Chester Charles Bennington was an American singer, songwriter, musician, and actor. He was best known as the lead vocalist for Linkin Park and was also the lead vocalist for the bands Dead by Sunrise, Stone Temple Pilots, and Grey Daze. He also appeared in films such as Crank, Crank: High Voltage, and Saw 3D.
  4. Avicii – Tim Bergling, known professionally as Avicii, was a Swedish DJ, electronic musician, and songwriter who specialized in audio programming, remixing and record producing. At the age of 16, Bergling began posting his remixes on electronic music forums, which led to his first record deal.
  5. Paul Walker – Paul William Walker IV was an American actor and philanthropist best known for his role as Brian O’Conner in The Fast and the Furious franchise.

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