Feelings Are Overrated

Have you ever felt that you are living life but there is something missing? It’s not like you are sad or depressed, it’s like something is missing. I feel somewhat like that.

I am Anirban from India and I want to do big things. I am crazy and I like to think. The reason for this blog post is to talk you about phases in life when things feel different even though everything is alright.

Feelings are said to be overrated and I agree. But they are important indicators of what we are doing wrong. And I am a big believer in self-reflection. And I think feelings can help us introspect more effectively.

But I also believe feelings must not come in decision making. I myself fail to live by this idea but I that if I had not listened to my feelings, my life would have been completely different for good. I mean I would not have been able to recognize myself in the mirror.

When I say that I mean feelings play a major role in maintaining a false sense of self. And although it is not true for all situations, I think it is true for more situations.

And that’s why I think the dicotomy between purpose and survival is very confusing. Purpose tends to be emotional and survival tends to be more logical. When I want to make a decision based on thinking through something, I make the mistake of not taking action fast. I mean I tend to ask myself “What’s the purpose behind that?” and then when I start taking action, I am forced by my habits to change my mind to the survival mindset.

I am not perfect and I am trying to figure things out. The easiest way out seems to be just take action. But it’s not easy. As a leader it is important to have fierce belief and a sense of direction but it is not easy to do that when you have collegen and people over your head instructing you to live life their way.

I mean it not easy but I must stay focused.

Right now something feels like it’s missing. Maybe it’s just the mind but I have to take responsibility of that. At the end of the day I am the one who created my life’s circumstances.

I think the thing I want to give to you in this post is that Responsibility is what we must take for everything. Even if it is negative emotions or confusion or other people’s actions, we must take responsibility.

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Beliefs: Degree and Scale

We all have polarized opinions that something or someone is good or evil. But most of the time those are not completely accurate. When we realize the truth then there is a lot of grey area. There are degrees of good/bad and different scales depending on the context of the matter.

It is not easy to always see the grey area. It is a sign of a mature mind who can understand the wisdom behind everyday phenomena. And if a person knows how to see the grey and still make good decisions in life, we may know him as a great leader in the future.

What is a grey area?

It is an understanding that people or things are not completely good or evil or both. They are as they are and their impact in our lives both comes with “good” and “bad” consequences. For example, if we try to know the truth about whether “people are bad”. It is sometimes true and sometimes not. There is no universal version of it for all people in all circumstances. Let’s reframe it. We begin with defining what “people” means here. Of course, it depends on the person saying the statement. To me, “people” may mean people at night clubs because I spend most of the time there with a job I hate. But to my friend Kabir, “people” may mean people at his office and his boss because he hates his job. So for everyone “people” has a different meaning. To me, people at night clubs may be bad and to Kabir people at his office are bad. So we cannot make it into a universal truth for all humans in the world.

Now the concept of degree and scale is like rows and columns in a table. Every value at different combinations of the two has a different value. It is like the Celsius degree of 37 degrees. 37 degrees in Celsius is not the same as 37 degrees in Fahrenheit. For example, a person with low emotional intelligence(EQ) has a problem with people at night clubs. Then the low EQ is the degree and the context of nigh clubs is the scale.

“Why are you trying to tell me this simple stuff in this complicated manner, Anirban?”, you may be thinking. This system will improve your understanding of your beliefs, decisions and life.

How do I use the grey area concept for challenging my false beliefs?

Your beliefs are something you hold as the truth. But we base most of them on misperception or partial perception. For example, you experienced bullying in school for being a certain way. That’s why you are holding a belief that people will bully you if you are that way and you believe that “people are bad”. But that is not the truth. What you can do is to use the grey area concept for solving this problem.

You do this by reframing and putting things in its proper context. The degree and scale model makes it easier to do that. All you have to do is-

Degree: the thinking of as if people will bully you.

Scale: the context of your limited perspective of the feeling of threat from people.

Then you can change your beliefs with appropriate actions. I will discuss that in another blog post.

How can I distinguish degree from the scale?

It is very simple to do so.

Degree- You can ask yourself “To what degree is the statement true?” and then the answer that you get is the degree.

Scale- You can ask yourself, “At what scale is the statement true?” and then the answer that you get is the scale.

This is a new system that I came up with. I hope you will find it helpful.

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5 Great People Who Showed Us How To Live

5 Great People Who Showed Us How To Live

As I listen to “Nadaaniyaan” from The Sky Is Pink, I feel nostalgic about the great people who are not living with us anymore who had shown us how to live life. Death is a reminder of our impermanence and we need to use this to move towards the Truth.

In this article, I will write about the great people who are no more with us and how they showed us how to truly live life. These are the topmost influential people whose legacy still has an impact on us-

  1. Aisha Chaudhary – Aisha Chaudhary (27 March 1996 – 24 January 2015) was a young Indian author and motivational speaker. She is the author of the book My Little Epiphanies, published one day before her death.
  2. Christina Grimmie – Christina Victoria Grimmie (March 12, 1994 – June 10, 2016) was an American YouTuber, singer, songwriter, and actress. In 2009, she began posting covers of popular songs onto YouTube. After releasing her debut EP, Find Me (2011), she reached one million subscribers on her YouTube channel. After her channel reached two million subscribers, she released her debut studio album, With Love (2013).
  3. Chester Bennington – Chester Charles Bennington was an American singer, songwriter, musician, and actor. He was best known as the lead vocalist for Linkin Park and was also the lead vocalist for the bands Dead by Sunrise, Stone Temple Pilots, and Grey Daze. He also appeared in films such as Crank, Crank: High Voltage, and Saw 3D.
  4. Avicii – Tim Bergling, known professionally as Avicii, was a Swedish DJ, electronic musician, and songwriter who specialized in audio programming, remixing and record producing. At the age of 16, Bergling began posting his remixes on electronic music forums, which led to his first record deal.
  5. Paul Walker – Paul William Walker IV was an American actor and philanthropist best known for his role as Brian O’Conner in The Fast and the Furious franchise.

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Death: The Most Real Thing

There are many ideas put forth by people as the truth. But there is one thing that is the most real thing, Death. It is the most real thing. No one can deny it, nor can anyone avoid it. It is something that every living being must face.

It is not a matter of how innocent or wealthy you are. Everyone will die one day. And this is the most real thing. It is universal and it is true in every case. No one has a claim over death, and it is inevitable.

Although many people say that death is an illusion, I honestly don’t know. I think death is more real than anything in this world. It is the end of your existence.

I don’t believe in rebirth. Many people say that they don’t believe in God but they believe in rebirth. This is clearly nonsense. It just shows their degree of ignorance. God is defined as a being that has created the world. But if you are denying the existence of God or if you are not sure about the existence of God, you are not sure about the creation of this world. Saying that the world exists by default is just a way of saying, “I don’t know but I won’t admit it.”

The truth is I don’t know, and I must admit that I don’t know. I want to know what is really going on here. I will not take my existence for granted. And I will find out what is really going on.

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”

-Steve Jobs

The point is thinking about death is the only way to keep things real. It is the only want to not lose track of the meaning of life.

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Selfishness Is An Illusion

The title says selfishness is an illusion because selfishness is not an act of evil, but it is an act of ignorance. The most selfish act that a person can perform is to remain ignorant. Not knowing is more dangerous than “selfishness”.

There is a reason why selfishness is often looked down upon in society. Although society is itself selfish, it is ignorant of its own ignorance. The reason is mostly religious and related to collective survival. Anyone who is going out in the world only caring for themselves is looked upon as selfish but if that person succeeds and become the top 1% someday he/she will be looked at with admiration by the same people who previously labelled him/her as selfish.

There is nothing selfish about the world. The only selfishness there is is in the subject. Self-reflection will help a person realize that all the evils in the world are in the subject himself.

It’s not about whether the person is out there for everyone, but it is about whether the person is there for the truth. The only thing that matters is the truth.

So, all this time I wrote about how selfishness is an illusion but what is not an illusion? Let’s talk about that. Truth is not an illusion. Truth is the only thing that is true, and it is the antidote to ignorance.

See, the reason we suffer is that we don’t know what we don’t know. It’s ignorance of the truth that keeps us stuck in our old patterns.

The only thing that I can say about the truth is that all is one. This is something I have felt and I believe in it.

Self-knowledge or self-awareness of the truth is the antidote to ignorance or any perceived selfishness. It is not easy to do but it is liberating. Facing the truth is the hardest thing in life and it is also the most necessary and right thing to do.

Truth is very simple. It is the thing that gives you confidence, it is what the greatest human beings have lived on, it is the most powerful thing. And it will liberate you.

Selfishness is not real, it is the truth that is real. Truth is the antidote to ignorance. And me saying that someone is selfish only highlights how selfish I am.

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