The Only Real Reason To Live Life For

I wanted to speak about something more philosophical but I realised I am here to be authentic. And here’s a topic that’s authentic to me but also very important to understand. (None of what I wrote is scientifically verified. I am writing what I feel from my point of view.)

The real reason that we need to live for is our capacity to love unconditionally.

I am not referring to the romantic love we seek while searching for a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I am talking about the love that Mother Theresa showed, that Martin Luther King Jr. showed, that Abraham Lincoln showed, that Lord Jesus shows, that makes you inspired on a Saturday night when you decide to change your career because you realise that your entire life is of a sheep living life just to fit in and not living an authentic life.

I find the latest trendy goal setting self-help materials very funny because they want you to create artificial motivations based on money, health, wealth, love, happiness and other temporary things. I say “temporary” because they don’t matter in the long run. They are important but they don’t matter.

What matters is increasing your capacity to love unconditionally. What does this even mean? I am glad you asked. In my experience, I realised that something is love when you want to water it and grow it instead of plucking it like a flower. For example, parents love their children but not all parents love other people’s children like their own children. When they can love other people like they love their own children, I think that is unconditional love.

I know there will be disagreements in some people and it’s alright. Please comment it under this blog post and I will try to reply.

Now not all people are parents. So you must understand that what I mean by the above example is when you can love another being as if he were you, then that is unconditional love.

Empathy is a very important feeling here and it will help you love unconditionally. Self-love is also a very important quality because without it there is no love. Helping others, living your life purpose, being happy, cherishing the little things in life are very important for unconditional love. Also there are many qualities that go into helping you grow your capacity to love unconditionally. Therefore if you want to grow your capacity to love unconditionally, you need to study unconditional love and start growing it through applying what you studied.

Now let me tell you what I think are its benefits-

  1. True happiness
  2. Satisfaction
  3. Feeling like you are doing things that matter(the little things)
  4. True success
  5. Freedom from the mind’s self-created suffering
  6. Wisdom
  7. Connection to God
  8. And many more benefits.

This list is created by me because I feel that in my experience unconditional love has there benefits and more.

So what I want to communicate to you through this blog post is that instead of basing your goals in money or other temporary things, you could base your goals in your capacity to love unconditionally. For example it you think on a scale of 1 to 10 you are 2 at helping animals, then how can you make it a 4 in the next 6 months? Or if you are a 5 at helping people in your workplace, then what will it take to make it a 7?

If you don’t want to replace your money goals then you could at least add unconditional love to the top and money to the second position. Because unconditional love is what matters.

Thank you for reading this blog post. I am writing after a long time and I believe I need to apologise. So I apologise to you all who reads my blog and follows it. I have been busy and distracted for a while and I would love to be back to blogging regularly again. Thanks again for reading and please like and share this blog post. Take care!

My Story Of Beliefs

Beliefs : The Earth Is Not A Sphere

Do you hold beliefs like the world is a sphere?

If yes then congrats. You have correctly learnt this belief that is although scientifically proven is still only a belief.

What you need to understand that this belief is not real. It is just a belief, a thought that someone else handed to you.

If you are honest with yourself, you will understand that to really live a full life, you need to disregard beliefs are live from experience.

Experience is more important than beliefs. It is not enough to just belief someone else’s words. For example, if you really distinguish between stuff that you genuinely experienced in life and stuff that you believe, then you will find out that most of what you hold true, is only just a belief.

Watch My Video

So in this video I have shared my story of how I understood that beliefs are not real. Although I said that beliefs are not real, if you believe me in this as well, you are actually believing instead of experiencing. So just watch it and think and experiment with it instead of believing it.

Watch the video and comment what you think about beliefs.

They are false, not real, even if they are scientifically backed, if you don’t experience its truth then it is still just a figment of your imagination, a belief.

What Are Beliefs?

Belief is a strong thought pattern that has emotional charge to it and it governs your worldview, actions, emotions, thoughts, speech, relations.

Most self-help schools think that changing your beliefs is enough to achieve success, but they don’t tell you that the happiness that you truly want cannot be had by changing your beliefs but by being present and annihilating them. It is also common for people to fight over their ideologies and dogma because they are personally identified with them. They think their beliefs are the truth. Most of the time they are about God. Although most people don’t have an experience of God, they will go to great heights to defend their ideas about God. But that just shows how identified they are with their ideas. They also consider them to be the truth.

The solution is not to fight with counter beliefs, which is what philosophy does, but to annihilate them by being present.

The Solution

Being present is what will lead to real happiness and freedom from thoughts. It is the only way to ensure that we don’t hold beliefs are real. To do this we need to practice being present. But that topic is for another blog post.

Right now we need to realize that no belief is real. I already gave you the example of the earth being a sphere as a belief. But there are more of them that need to be looked at and annihilated with your conscious presence.

So watch this video to listen to my story and then comment here what you think beliefs really are?

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Death: The Most Real Thing

There are many ideas put forth by people as the truth. But there is one thing that is the most real thing, Death. It is the most real thing. No one can deny it, nor can anyone avoid it. It is something that every living being must face.

It is not a matter of how innocent or wealthy you are. Everyone will die one day. And this is the most real thing. It is universal and it is true in every case. No one has a claim over death, and it is inevitable.

Although many people say that death is an illusion, I honestly don’t know. I think death is more real than anything in this world. It is the end of your existence.

I don’t believe in rebirth. Many people say that they don’t believe in God but they believe in rebirth. This is clearly nonsense. It just shows their degree of ignorance. God is defined as a being that has created the world. But if you are denying the existence of God or if you are not sure about the existence of God, you are not sure about the creation of this world. Saying that the world exists by default is just a way of saying, “I don’t know but I won’t admit it.”

The truth is I don’t know, and I must admit that I don’t know. I want to know what is really going on here. I will not take my existence for granted. And I will find out what is really going on.

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”

-Steve Jobs

The point is thinking about death is the only way to keep things real. It is the only want to not lose track of the meaning of life.

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Thoughts on self-esteem

Introduction

Before we jump into how to increase your self-esteem, I will say that self-esteem is the product of deeper self-awareness. It is something that happens due to our inner state of being and our beliefs of ourselves.

If I think I am worthy of happiness, my self-esteem is high but if I think the opposite of that then my self-esteem is low.

I have read a book called “The Six Pillars of Self-esteem” by Nathaniel Branden and I was blown away by some of the insights that he talks about. Reading that book moved me forward in my self-improvement journey because I realized what I will tell you in this blog post.

I realized that self-esteem is about self-awareness. It is a by-product of self-awareness. So anything you do that increases your self-awareness is going to increase your self-esteem.

The exercises that Nathaniel Branden gives us in this book is very experiential and practical because it is doable and gives results instantly. You become more self-aware as a result of that.

Another thing that I want to point out is that self-esteem is not something that you can get by thinking about self-esteem. You must do stuff. You must act. This is important because acting is the indicator of your level of consciousness and as your consciousness increases, you start to act in greater quantities.

I believe that acting is the indicator of consciousness because what is the indicator of consciousness? Thinking about life and truth is not truth itself. It is an action that is solid proof of truth. And the quality of the action also matters. But unless you start to act, you may be deluding yourself as to how high conscious you are.

How to increase self-esteem?

Since our goal is to increase our self-esteem, I will give you some tips on how to increase your self-esteem:

  1. Take time to have fun and enjoy life
  2. Get honest with yourself
  3. Act at 10 times the level you think is required
  4. Think at 10 times the level you think is required
  5. Succeed

I know this is new and you don’t need to think about this too much, just do it.

Sometimes we think about growth and change but don’t do it. A breakthrough for me was to realise that I need to have some faith in someone or something to pull me forward. Come on, you have utter faith in yourself but you still feel like a failure. You need to have faith in living beings, maybe a role model. Get a mentor maybe.

Although this blog post is not about honesty, I wrote honesty in the tips because honesty is the only thing that will ensure that you get rid of the stress and false beliefs that are the reasons for your low self-esteem in the first place.

Conclusion

In another blog, I will talk about the tips to increase your self-esteem in greater details.

Until then comment in the comment box if self-esteem is important to you. And please share this blog post with your friends and family members or anyone who you think will benefit from this post.

4 Reasons To Be Open-minded

Why not spiritual? Why not open-minded? Because everyone is at their stage of development and everyone’s circumstances are different. They’re both interrelated.

The reason you are at a certain stage of development is that your circumstances are different and vice-versa. Why is that? It is because all is one.

But there is always a place for the realization that it’s a fabrication of the mind. Your problems are the fabrications of your mind. So if you realize that then you would have a shift in priorities in life. So try to realize that.

You can realize the spiritual but that is not easy. I am not saying that I have realized the spiritual. But I know that it’s a real possibility to realize it.

4 reasons to be more open-minded

Here are 4 reasons for why we need to start to open our minds to the spiritual-

  1. Survival of the Human race- It’s the only way to save the human race from extinction. You may look around you and in the news that the earth is slowly dying. Global warming, pollution, and a threatening possibility of a global nuclear war may lead to us getting extinct. If you think clearly you will realize that we are trying to solve violence with more violence. To stop terrorism with more violence may not be good for our species. We need to raise our consciousness to deal with this problem of our self-destruction.
  2. Your peace of mind– You cannot get peace by getting a better job or having more money or a better partner but you need to raise the level of your consciousness to get real peace of mind. The search for peace in material things is not a fulfilling option.
  3. Your mental health- You would be surprised to know that Gandhiji used to be depressed. So is the case with many great leaders like John F. Kennedy, Abraham Lincoln and Winston Churchill who were in modern terminology mentally ill or mad but they are the greatest human beings that ever existed. The line between insanity and sanity is not really clear. And maybe you have heard the saying that if everyone is wrong about something then that does not make it right. So is the case with mental health. Life is hard and it will make you insane at some point. The question is can you tell if you are insane if you went insane. Think about it and maybe you will realize that raising your level of consciousness is the only sane thing you can do.
  4. The fourth reason is left blank for you to add any number of reasons because even one reason is enough to convince you. The fourth reason is ______________________.

Conclusion

The point of this post is to show you how important open-mindedness is. If you cannot accept the facts like “The is no such thing as insanity or sanity”, then you are not that open-minded. You may think you are open-minded or spiritual but you need to be more open to doing spiritual practices like meditation and other practices.

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